Self-Esteem vs. Ego
Written by Patricia Zimmerman
Self-esteem is knowing, deep within, that you can do it—without boasting or needing recognition. It is confidence rooted in knowledge, will, and self-awareness. A person with healthy self-esteem does not need to “toot their own horn.” Their actions speak for themselves, and they naturally lift others up through service, not for attention.
Ego, on the other hand, is “Edging God Out.” It is self-centered, attention-seeking, and boastful. It says things like:
“Look at me! Look what I can do!”
“I have more than you, so I am better.”
“I’ll do it my way, no matter what anyone else thinks.”
Ego is rooted in fear. It seeks control, envy, jealousy, blame, drama, and power. It operates for self-interest, not the greater good, and cannot love unconditionally.
Key Differences:
Self-esteem knows who you are, accepts yourself, and recognizes your strengths and limits. It allows you to create your world with clarity, perception, and responsibility.
Ego is insecure, seeks validation, and often blames others or circumstances. It draws attention through drama, envy, or control.
The Dangers of Ego:
Controls love and limits compassion
Seeks power and control over others
Creates jealousy and comparison
Fosters blame instead of responsibility
Drives drama to get attention
Hinders true spiritual connection
The Path to Freedom:
Watch your thoughts—they shape your words and actions.
Observe your actions—they reveal what truly motivates you.
Monitor your feelings—the ego often inflates and intoxicates.
Step back and gain perspective—look at situations from multiple angles.
Let go of fear, blame, and control—embrace love.
When we release the ego, we make room for God, love, and true self-awareness. Fear dissolves, unconditional love flows, and we step fully into our divine potential.
Remember: There are no victims in life—only co-creators of our circumstances. Everything is borrowed from God; nothing is truly “owned.”
Blessings on your journey!