People search a lifetime to find God without ever knowing Him/Her. Until you can give up your self-centered, materialistic worldly ways, you will never know God for God lives in the heart. The only way to know God is to be like Him/Her - humble, self-less, forgiving, patient, kind, loving, caring, compassionate, understanding, nurturing, peaceful, grateful, and purity in mind, body, and soul.
And, yes, we were all made in the likeness of God - male AND female. Father God is all wisdom while Mother God is compassionate and nurturing. It took both--a male and a female--to create you. It took both--Father God and Mother God--to create YOU! Love yourselfl for the beautiful person/soul you are! If you cannot love yourself, you cannot truly love anyone else. "Buying" love is not "being" love.
Blessings to you on your journey!
With much love, Pat