The Difference between Ego and Self-Esteem

Written by Patricia Zimmerman

Self-esteem is:

“I am proud of myself for what I have done.”

It comes without ego and says:

“I know I can do it.”

Ego, on the other hand, says:

“I’m not sure I can do it, but I’m going to bluff my way through it.”
“Look at me.”
“Look at what I can do.”
“Look at what I have.”

Ego is boastful, always seeking attention, and often diverts focus from true knowledge and ability.

Healthy Self-Esteem

• Comes from confidence, will, and knowledge

• Requires no boasting; actions speak for themselves

• Seeks to help others without looking for recognition

• Increases when we are in service to others rather than the self

• Knows what one can and cannot accomplish

• Accepts and loves oneself fully

• Uplifts others instead of tearing them down

A person with healthy self-esteem is centered, empowered, and grounded in their abilities and truth.

Low Self-Esteem

• Lacks awareness of personal abilities

• Often asks others what they should do, giving their power away

• May have stepped off their spiritual path

• Struggles to define personal boundaries and truth

Perspective and Truth

You create your world based on how you perceive life.

• Your perspective is not necessarily absolute truth

• Others may have different viewpoints

• Form your own opinion; do not give your power away

Stand back, observe, and consider situations from multiple angles—you may be surprised by what you see.

Guarding Against Ego

• Watch your thoughts

• Watch your words, for they validate your thoughts

• Watch your actions, as they are an even stronger validation

• Watch how you feel

Ego is intoxicating. It can puff you up, make you feel superior, and drive self-serving behavior. True self-esteem balances personal power with care for others.

Ego is self-serving. It focuses on what is best for you, not necessarily what is best for all concerned.