Each person has their own unique and different issues to heal, and because our issues are different, no two people heal in the same way.
The desire to heal is the first and most important step in healing. Ask yourself: “Do you really want to heal? What are you getting out of the dis-ease? (Attention is the most common answer.) What are you afraid to lose or leave behind if you heal? Is what you are doing really worth it in the long run? When you gain in one area, you lose in another. What you may gain in attention by having a dis-ease, you lose in self-respect. Is it worth the price?
Believing that healing is possible is the next step. When you have a burning desire within the heart to heal and you believe anything is possible, miracles can and will take place.
There is a lesson behind every dis-ease. To place blame with another is to blame you. As long as we are blaming someone else for what he or she may have done to us, we fail to see what we may have done to them. If you are in a challenging situation, you had a role in creating it. Everything in your world begins and ends with you.
Accepting responsibility for your role is an important part of healing. You wouldn’t be in the current situation if you hadn’t created it somewhere along the line (present or past life). Take the time to be the observer. What did you contribute to the situation? How did you handle what happened? What lessons were you learning? What are your fears? Were you doing what was best for all concerned, or were you doing what was best for you? Be honest with yourself and with others.
If you do not take the time to look, change cannot take place; you are doomed to repeat the lesson again and again, lifetime after lifetime, until it is finally learned.
Once you have reviewed your role, take a look at other people involved in the situation. What lessons were they learning? How can you best help them to learn their lesson? We all play roles for each other to learn our lessons. Shakespeare said it best: “All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players. They have their entrances and their exits. And one man in his time plays many parts.” Learn your lessons and move on.
Everyone involved was learning something from the situation or they wouldn’t have been a part of it. Have compassion. Forgive others for what you perceive they have done to you, and ask for forgiveness for what you may have done, intentionally or unintentionally, to them. And don’t forget to forgive yourself, too, for your lack of understanding.
True and permanent healing takes place when the cause and core of the condition are removed at inner levels.
Blessings to you on your journey!
With much love, Pat